Lupus is an interesting condition. Lots of people don't understand it. I don't understand it. But one of the worse things you can say to a person with Lupus is "you don't look sick." Recently, my younger brother said these offending words to me. He knows what is going on with me. HE KNOWS! Yet, in rage he told but "you don't look sick." What a terrible thing to say. I may not look sick on the outside every day, but I feel it. When I do look sick, I don't leave my home. When I look sick it is a real problem. So yes, I may not look sick, but be happy about that. Because when I look sick it may be my worse day.